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What Do I Do : I caught My Husband Having Se.x With two of My Junior Sister

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Dear

Kindly post this for me, i need your reader’s advise on how my husband slept with my two junior sisters that lived with us.
I have been married for 10+ years and thought I was happily married till some weeks ago. From the fourth year into my marriage my mom advised us to take on 2 female relatives. One was 22 and the other 13 at that time. In 2010, we noticed that the older of the girls had become so close to my husband to the point that anyone could easily conclude they were intimate. She became rude to me but got closer to my husband and he never saw anything wrong with her attitude. He would take her to school (UNILAG) and pick her up regularly. He would gladly buy the exact items for her and myself whenever he traveled. Several times he gave her large sums without my consent or knowledge but thankfully it all came out through her mom.

He blurted out once that she had STD and I was quite embarrassed that he would know that about her if nothing was going on. In the end we decided she couldn’t go on living in my house and my mom came to take her away her even though my husband kicked against it furiously. The younger one stayed on and that is now my greatest undoing.

She grew up quickly and she is now 20 and in her second year in University. She recently sent her Dad (who lives in Lagos) a suicide message stating that she was going to kill herself if she is allowed to continue staying with us. Her dad has now called me to say he followed up with the suicide message and she confided in him that my husband dis-v!rg!ned her at 15 and had continued to sleep with her till she put up some resistance late last year. She said he is also with her roommate and claimed to have seen a message from the girl to my husband implicating him. She also said that she had caught my husband and the older girl that left in 2010 in suspicious positions before the girl was sent away.

I have confronted him with all these and he is not giving tangible reasons to disbelieve the girl. Truth is I know he did these things because of other things the girl told me that I have since confirmed one of which is that he brought a stray girl (18 yrs) into our home under the guise that she was a distant cousin’s daughter. It turned out he met her randomly and merely chatted her up.

My Pastors have intervened and told me all these are true but that “he is a man and will never openly admit it now”. They are asking me to let go for the sake of my children and the marriage. I am however upset that he will get off this easily and the innocent girl will not get justice. Should I cover his sins and appeal to the girl’s father who has indicated that he will do as I advise or should I insist that he is made to apologize to the girl? I keep thinking what if she is my own daughter!! I am at my wits end trying to figure out if I should act as a wife or a mother! Will a good wife cover her husband’s sins???

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  • Reply samuel August 21, 2016 at 8:24 am

    no

  • Reply Maintain September 27, 2016 at 5:38 am

    My dear, save ur marriage and move on…

    • Reply Justice September 29, 2016 at 2:55 pm

      Whaaaaat..is marriage to a beast that important? Shame on you for such stupid advise .
      Such a beast may sleep with his own daughter one day.

  • Reply Edafe Alero September 29, 2016 at 8:45 am

    My lovely sister, onehand you made the greatest mistake must of us has wife’s and mother’s will make but I for will advice you save your marriage, apologized to the girls parents and serval all distant relationship with you extended families and look for a better time to talk with husband,pls don’t critics him in front of anyone, stand by him today and tomorrow to do like wise for. Remember a virtuous woman is a home builder(PVB 31:1-31),also we are meant to fight for our marriage and cleaned our husband’s mass,pls don’t let the situation destroyed all you have put in your marriage. I pray the Almighty and Faithful father,the creator of marriage will give the wisdom to handle this situation. Just asked Him for His wisdom and you will get right. Remained blessed IJN Amen.

    • Reply Nneka January 1, 2017 at 4:15 am

      It is people like you that encourage men to be promiscuous. If it were your daughter that was disvirgined at 15yrs, would you say the same thing? Let’s be realistic for heavens sake, if the wife continues to cover u, hellrape his daughters one day. He defiled a 15yr old girl, that is very wrong, he must first own up to his mistake, that is the first step.

  • Reply medusa September 29, 2016 at 10:01 pm

    Look for gun and shoot him…..He’s a bastard…He deserve to be kill

    • Reply 'Biodun November 2, 2016 at 7:45 am

      Put yourself in that position pls. then, give your advice. Thanks…Don’t think from the heart but maintain fairness. thank you…

  • Reply Mohammed Gidado September 29, 2016 at 11:32 pm

    Pls my candid advice is divorce him and leave on with your live that man isn’t your husband pls contact me for one on one special advice.

  • Reply emmanuel israel November 2, 2016 at 1:24 pm

    Mrs I will beg you to act like a wife nt a mother just get it off your mind and pray for your husband GOD will lead you.

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